10 TIPS ON HOW TO GET OVER A BREAKUP

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So welcome to the single club. You feel like shit now and probably are lost and not too sure of what to do next. Suddenly, you feel that your life just came crumbling down and you have lost meaning in life. Well , fret not, as you are not alone and that there are people out there who are probably feeling the same way as you too. Here are some tips that can probably help you get over the breakup and a big HUG to show that you are not alone in this okay. Trust me, I just broke up like two weeks ago and I am still alive even though at first I thought I was going to die.
 SO WE WILL GET OVERCOME THIS TOGETHER ALRIGHT? <3

TIP #1 CRY
Go ahead and let it all out. Cry as much as you want. Crying is a better form of relieving yourself rather than just bottling up your feelings.

TIP #2 DON'T EVER LISTEN TO WHAT OTHERS HAVE TO SAY
Usually we will turn to our friends for comfort when we are going through a breakup phase. However, sometimes friends may actually not tell you things that you want to hear because they are not in your shoes. They will tell you stuffs like to just move on and all but really, don't listen to their advice. The reason why I am telling you not to listen to them is because they don't understand you. Yeah sure, they have been through breakups as well but nobody actually handles breakup the same way. So just ignore.

TIP #3 DO NOT DELETE ALL THE PHOTOS AND VIDEOS OR WHATEVER
I know how people will always tell you to delete all of those stuffs away but I feel that you should take your time and decide if it is worth deleting. For me personally, I don't feel the need to delete as I take the failed relationship as a lesson learnt and I guess it is nice to just look back at memories at times and to be proud of yourself because you manage to overcome that hurdle and become a stronger person than the one you were before.


TIP #4 DO NOT HATE ON THE OTHER PARTY

Hating on someone or wishing for bad things to happen to them isn't exactly healthy and it is just another sign that you are not over him/her yet.

TIP#5 FRIENDS AND FAMILY
Surround yourself with friends or spend time with your family. Catch up with them and try to keep yourself distracted. If they are the type who would constantly mention your ex, just tell them to stop.


TIP#6 DO THINGS THAT YOU WANNA DO
Pick up a hobby or travel if you can afford to. This is the time where you can discover yourself once again. If you can afford to travel, it is even better. Travelling is good because you are not able to use your phone that often. I know after a breakup, sometimes we tend to "stalk" our exes (DO NOT JUDGE ME)  but having the privilege of not having any WIFI is actually good during a breakup.

TIP #7 LEARN TO BE INDEPENDENT
Learn to rely on yourself and learn to love yourself first

TIP#8 RELATIONSHIPS
Do not be in a rush to get yourself into another relationship. You just had your heart broken and your mind is unclear of what you want. Getting yourself into another relationship would also hurt the other party as they might be a rebound or you may also get yourself hurt as you are pretty much vulnerable now and you might just get yourself taken advantage of.

TIP #9 DON'T CHANGE YOURSELF
I know of people who change themselves completely after a breakup. I am not saying that change is a bad thing but it depends on what you change yourself into. If you are a girl, don't get yourself wasted in a club or drown yourself in alcohol just to make yourself feel better. You are a girl, have some respect or value to yourself. Just calm down, sister!

TIP #10 GOALS
Think of a goal and work your way to achieve that goal. Keep yourself motivated and surround yourself with postivity. If you have been brooding over that failed relationship for quite some time, it is now time for you to wake up as time does not stop for you. You have things to do and there are other things in life that needs to be done. The best satisfaction that you can achieve is when you have achieve your goals and dreams. 




Eventually we all have to accept the fact that sometimes things are beyond our control and that things happen for a reason. 
If it is meant to be, it is meant to be .
 If he/she is meant to be yours, then they will be.  
For every ending, there is a new beginning. 
And therefore after every storm, comes a rainbow.






 For now, you may think that you are unable to deal with it but once you have gotten back on your feet, you will feel proud of yourself for being able to get through it. You will realise that you are a stronger person as compared to who you were before and that you have matured. For every failed relationship, there is a lesson to be learnt and these lessons will teach us to be a better person and also mould us to be a better girlfriend/boyfriend for the next person to come.


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