What it takes to date me or be with me


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There is a reason why I am still single and it is because I am difficult as hell to be in a relationship with. Being in a relationship with me is not easy because I have expectations. Expectations that one may feel are too high or difficult to meet. However, these expectations that I have may sound difficult but honestly they are easy to meet. I have expectations because I know what I want out of a relationship and I do not wish to waste my time investing into something that will not bring any good to me.

1. I need a man , not a boy.

I do not need a boy who can't make up his mind on what he wants or is just messing his life up even though he is going to turn 30 in a couple of years or so I expect a lot from you because I do not wish to deal with problems that maybe teenagers in relationships may have. I do not want to deal with insecurities, running away from problems or someone who is just not sure of what he wants.  I need someone who has a plan in his life and chases his dreams and goals.I am definitely not the clingy sort of girlfriend so I would appreciate it if my man gives me space as and when I need it.

2.Someone who understands

I get annoyed by people who try to talk to me like they get what I am talking about but honestly,they don't. It can be really REALLY annoying when you are telling someone something that probably matters to you but their reply is like... "Really meh?", " As if lor" or just downright jumping into conclusions. There is a reason why I am telling you some of these really personal things and having such responses from the guy I am seeing or in a relationship with makes me reconsider if I even want to be with a person who is not able to understand me and not take me seriously where there is a need to.

3. Call me Old Fashioned, but I pretty much prefer being pursued

Even though it is now 2016, I strongly believe that you can tell a lot from a person based on a first date or a meeting. As such, I'd very much like to be pursued and have the guy make an effort to plan what to do on our first date. The answer is simple. By showing that you put in effort to plan , it shows how serious you are to meet me and at the same time I'd give you all the attention that you need because I recognise your efforts. It doesn't necessarily have to mean dining in at a 5 star restaurant or whatsoever. I am fine with a lot of things. Beach first dates, picnic first dates.... you just have to show me that you have put in something. I am definitely not one who enjoys planning alone on what I want to do on a first date. But I would still help you out if you are stuck. First date is when you start getting to know each other.

4. Tells me to chase my dreams

I may not have like a proper goal or whatever in life that I'd like to achieve as of now. However, I do enjoy doing certain things like blogging, writing and photo taking so I'd like it better if my partner is someone who is supportive of the things that I do and not stop me from being myself. I just feel that it is sad if you are with someone who tells you to stop doing whatever you like just because he doesn't like it at all. You may see that now I may post a lot of racy and suggestive photographs, but if I am in a relationship, we can always talk things out. But then again, if you are dating me...you should very well know that I have been posting such photos since...whenever and what my intents are. I have friends telling me how their husbands very much prefer them without makeup even though they themselves love putting it on. It is just a girl's way of wanting to look good and all. I mean yeah sure you'd prefer me without makeup but once in a while, we girls just love dressing up. Then the argument continues and it goes something like ..."Oh... but I love you whether you dress up or not...", and the girls would be like "But I am doing this for myself".  I'd like to think of it as an added bonus if my partner lets me do whatever I want with my face personally. Hahaha.

5. Someone who works things out with me

Being in a relationship is like being with a team-mate. Life itself is a game and the challenges we face in the games are just obstacles that we need to get over. I can never be with someone who would maybe just spend his time drinking all of his money away instead of trying to work things out with me. Also, I just find it a sad thing if a guy is willing to just turn to another person like a third party if there is any conflicts between a couple instead of rectifying it. I know that the grass is always greener on the other side, but it'd be nice to actually have someone who is willing to work things out with you. I am sorry but I am a fighter when it comes to love. I'd stick with you through everything and I hope that you'd do the same for me. Things like these tend to move me a lot and it is what I really want in a relationship with someone. I don't want people to give up on me because I'd never give up on the people I love. When you love someone, you don't want anything bad to happen to them. Should there be an instances whereby one of us is going through hardship, we'd always have each other's back. I mean generally, that is what people would want. If you are going through some difficulty, you'd appreciate all the love and support that you need.

6. Makes me a better person

I just find it really heartwarming if you can find someone who makes you a better person or rather makes you strive to be a better person. Someone who inspires you and adds onto your happiness.

I am more of a quality kinda person so... whoever I am going to date has to at least have these expectations. I am not in a relationship with you just for the fun of it. Eventually, I am looking for someone with whom I can spend the rest of my life with and be a good Dad role model for my kids. I know what I want and I'd not settle for anything less than what I want. I am sorry that I may not be so easy to please but I have been through a few disappointments that it made me reconsider a lot before I decided to commit myself into a relationship.

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